As humans, our desires and wants often stand in the way of us being able to love another person unconditionally. Unconditional love may seem like an impossible feat, but it’s actually more common than you might think; all you have to do is give without expecting anything in return, and you will find your heart opening up immensely. Here are five reasons why giving without expecting anything in return is the deepest form of love.
The basic definition of unconditional love
Unconditional love is giving yourself to someone or something without setting conditions. It’s loving someone, pet, cause, idea, or philosophy simply because you love it, no matter what that thing does for you. It’s giving your heart freely with no expectations. When unconditional love exists between two people, there are no judgments and nothing to prove. The most beautiful and important relationships are built on unconditional love; thus far, only humans and animals have been able to master unconditional love. There are several theories about unconditional love – how it works, how we can achieve it – but all people who experience it agree that there is a certain magic associated with unconditional relationships.
The components of unconditional love
Love, compassion, understanding, and respect are all components that make up unconditional love. When someone loves you unconditionally, they do not expect anything from you but instead, offer their love to you. An aspect of unconditional love is loving yourself, which leads to self-acceptance and allowing yourself to be loved. Parker J Palmer’s book Let Your Life Speak, he describes three other components of deep and abiding love: simplicity, freedom from fear, and being present with each other moment by moment without anticipating what comes next.
How does it apply to relationships?
Unconditional love, or love without expectation, applies to relationships because it creates a sense of security and trust. People may not always be there for you, but if they are, then they are giving unconditionally. That kind of support can make others want to do better and work harder to bring out your best qualities, ultimately leading to a healthy relationship.
When does unconditional love start?
Unconditional love starts at birth. Babies can’t do anything for us, so we love them just because they are alive. You might be surprised by how much pure love you have within you, but maybe not as surprised as when people start using your unconditional love against you. For example, what if someone breaks your heart? If you truly loved them unconditionally, then shouldn’t their happiness matter more than your own feelings?
When does it end?
There are a few stages of love – early, middle and late. The same can be said for love ending. Early on, you spend much of your time confused about what exactly it is that you are feeling for your loved one. You may go through a long period where they bring you displeasure more than anything else in your life, but you can’t do without them. And finally, if all goes well, there comes a deep acceptance that they have always been with you – even when they weren’t – and will continue to be, even after they are gone from your life. But one thing never changes: love without boundaries is always beneficial – no matter how long it lasts!