Chapter Three · A Story About Generosity
There is a kind of wealth that cannot be inherited, invested, or stored.
In many African traditions, it is simply called Ubuntu — I am because we are. This is Salim’s account of the day he followed a stranger through a Nairobi roadside and discovered what that phrase actually costs — and what it returns.
“He had owned that bread for less than five minutes. Already, it belonged to someone else.”
— Salim Kiarie Mbogo
The Man Everyone Seemed to Know
I should have gone to my meeting.
Even now, I sometimes laugh when I think about it.
There I was, worried about deadlines, rent, and unpaid bills… yet somehow, I’d convinced myself that following an old man I’d met less than ten minutes earlier was suddenly the most important thing in the world.
Looking back, maybe curiosity has a way of making fools out of all of us.
Or maybe… some people simply arrive in your life for a reason.
The old man walked slowly, his hands folded behind his back as though he had nowhere urgent to be. There was no rush in his steps. No sign that the drizzle soaking his clothes bothered him. He moved through the crowded roadside with the calm confidence of someone who had walked the same path thousands of times.
I stayed a short distance behind. Far enough not to seem obvious. Close enough that I wouldn’t lose him if the crowd thickened.
What Debt Looks Like Between People Who Know Each Other
For a brief moment, I actually questioned what I was doing. “Salim,” I muttered to myself, “have you completely lost your mind?”
I almost turned around. Then it happened again.
A white pickup slowed beside the road. The driver — a middle-aged man in a reflective construction jacket — leaned out and called: “Babu!”
The old man stopped. The driver climbed out, ignoring the rain. The two men shook hands. Not quickly. Not casually. The kind of handshake people reserve for someone they deeply respect.
The driver reached into the passenger seat and pulled out a small paper bag. Fresh bread. Milk. Tea leaves. Nothing extravagant. Just groceries.
“You shouldn’t have.”
“I know. My wife said you’d say exactly that.”
They both laughed. The driver climbed back in and drove away, waving through the open window until he disappeared into traffic.
I remained exactly where I was. Trying to make sense of what I’d just witnessed.
That wasn’t charity. It didn’t feel like pity either. It felt personal. Like repaying a debt. But what debt?
He Kept None for Himself
The rain finally stopped. Water dripped from electricity cables overhead, landing rhythmically in shallow puddles along the roadside. A pair of boys splashed through them barefoot, chasing an old football patched together with black tape.
One of them spotted the old man. “Babu!” He abandoned the game immediately.
When they reached him, they didn’t ask for money. They didn’t ask for sweets. The smaller boy proudly pulled a folded exercise book from inside his school sweater.
“Babu… I came first.”
The old man adjusted his spectacles before opening the exercise book carefully, as though it contained something priceless. Red ink covered the page. 98%.
“Eh!” He clapped once. “I told you that mathematics wasn’t stronger than you.”
Then something unexpected happened. The old man reached into the paper bag he’d just been given. He broke the loaf of bread in half. One piece went to the first boy. The other to his friend. He kept none for himself.
The boys thanked him and ran off, still laughing.
He had owned that bread for less than five minutes. Already, it belonged to someone else.
I don’t know why that stayed with me. Maybe because I had spent the entire morning worrying about not having enough. He seemed completely unconcerned with keeping what little he had.

She Had Kept Some Tea
We turned into a quieter road lined with jacaranda trees. Purple flowers, knocked loose by the rain, covered the ground like a faded carpet.
An elderly woman sat outside a tiny kiosk arranging tomatoes into neat little piles. The moment she saw the old man, she stood up.
“Ai, Babu! You disappeared.”
“I’ve only been away three days.”
“Three days is disappearing.”
She reached beneath the counter and produced a flask. “I kept some tea.” Steam curled gently into the cool afternoon air. The old man accepted it with both hands. “Asante.”
Her granddaughter had sat her exams the day before. “She was nervous,” the woman said.
“That’s good. It means she cared.”
The woman laughed quietly. “I never think of things the way you do.”
“That’s why you make better tea than I do.”
The laughter between them felt effortless. Like family.

Whatever This Man Had Built, It Had Nothing to Do with Money
As we continued walking, I noticed something I hadn’t before. Nobody greeted him because they felt sorry for him. Nobody lowered their voice. Nobody treated him like a burden.
People teased him. Argued with him. Laughed with him. Trusted him.
Whatever this man had built… it had nothing to do with money.
We had barely walked another hundred metres when I heard hurried footsteps behind us. A young woman, probably in her late twenties, came running. Slightly out of breath. Eyes red — not from the rain.
For several seconds, neither of them spoke. Then she stepped forward and hugged him. Not the polite embrace you give an acquaintance. The desperate kind. The kind people save for the person who makes them feel safe.
The old man didn’t ask what was wrong. He didn’t interrupt her silence. He simply rested one weathered hand gently on her shoulder. They stood there for almost a full minute. Saying nothing.
“I’m trying,” she whispered.
“I know.”
“I’m really trying.”
“I know.”
She nodded once, thanked him, and walked away. I watched her disappear into the crowd. The old man said nothing. He simply resumed walking.
Would You Like to Come Home for a Cup of Tea?
By now, my curiosity had become something else entirely. It wasn’t curiosity anymore. It was disbelief.
Who was this man? A retired teacher? A pastor? A village elder? A former chief? None of it seemed to fit.
And then — just as I was beginning to think I would never find the answer — he stopped walking.
Without turning around, he spoke. His voice was calm. Almost amused.
“You’ve been following me since the maize stand.”
My heart skipped. For a second, I considered denying it. Instead — I smiled awkwardly.
“I suppose I have.”
He finally turned to face me. Those old eyes studied me for a moment. Not suspiciously. Curiously. Then he smiled — a smile so warm it instantly dissolved every ounce of embarrassment I felt.
“I was wondering… how long it would take before you introduced yourself.”
He extended his hand. “My friends call me Babu.”
Then, glancing at the darkening sky, he added words that would change my life in ways I couldn’t yet imagine.
“Would you like to come home for a cup of tea?”
At that moment, I had no idea that behind the rusted iron-sheet door of his tiny house… waited the greatest lesson about wealth I would ever learn.
— End of Chapter Three —
Ubuntu in Action
Ubuntu philosophy teaches that personhood is not built alone — it is woven through relationship, presence, and the practice of showing up for one another across generations. Babu did not perform generosity. He lived it as Ubuntu philosophy demands — not as charity, but as the natural order of a life lived in community.
This is the wealth Ubuntu Village was built to honor — and to protect. It is not found in accounts or assets. It is found in the woman who keeps your tea warm when you’ve been away three days. In the man who drives through the rain because his wife insisted. In the child who runs across a muddy field just to show someone they trust how far they’ve come.
Community Is the Medicine
Stories like Babu’s exist in every community Ubuntu Village serves — in Nairobi, in Kampala, in Lagos, in East Harlem. Our work is to honor that wealth, amplify those voices, and ensure communities have the resources to keep showing up for each other. If this story moved you, stand with us.
Support Ubuntu VillageReferences + Related Reading
Sources
- Metz, T. (2011). Ubuntu as a Moral Theory and Human Rights in South Africa. African Human Rights Law Journal.
- Tutu, D. (1999). No Future Without Forgiveness. Doubleday. — On Ubuntu and communal personhood.
- Adichie, C.N. (2009). The Danger of a Single Story. TED Global. — On the power and responsibility of storytelling.
Read the Series
- Chapter One: The Richest Man I Ever Met Owned Nothing — The Funeral
- Chapter Two: The Weight of an Ordinary Tuesday
- Chapter Four: Behind the Rusted Door
- Chapter Five: A Wealth Measured in Lives
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About the author
Salim Kiarie Mbogo
Salim Kiarie Mbogo is a programming student and writer based in Kenya whose work sits at the intersection of technology, community, and African identity. A contributor to Ubuntu Village, he brings a grounded, future-forward voice to conversations about ancestral wisdom, digital innovation, and what it means to build from within. When he writes, he writes for the village.
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